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Your Brain on Threat: Demands and Expectations
On Medium: Your Brain on Threat.
Lilly Sloane Interviews Me On Relationships
Check out Lily Sloan’s podcast about relationships, featuring yours truly, with references to such greats as Glennon Melton Doyle, Dan Wile, Terry Real and Stan Tatkin (not to mention Fig Newtons!). Also see Lily’s podcast site, A Therapist Walks Into A Bar.
My Huffington Post Article on Work-Life
Thrilled to be published on HuffPo, via Psyched Magazine! Click here to read my article on how overwork is harming families.
What I’m Reading Now
A few months ago I went through a wonderful “beginner’s sequence” of books exploring aspects of mindfulness and Buddhism, all of which I’d recommend for anyone interested in those topics. Here they are: The Monk and the Philosopher – Jean Francois Revel and Matthieu Ricard A somewhat repetitive, but otherwise enjoyable and informative dialog between […]
Blog Changes…
Now that I’ve been writing more in other forums (such as Psyched In San Francisco) I’m afraid I’ve neglected my little home-skillet here! While previously this blog had been a venue for sharing my semi-extended thoughts on relationships, I’m now going to shift to referencing my articles elsewhere and giving other, briefer updates on current […]
10 Life Enhancing Things To Do At A Stoplight
My post in Psyched Magazine: 10 Stoplight Things
My Fall Newsletter on Sadness
I know: not a cheery topic. But a good one to understand along with all the other emotions I’ve covered in my series. This article includes some information on the essential process of repair in relationships. Here’s the link: Anatomy of Emotion – Sadness (BTW, I don’t always post my newsletters. If you want to […]
Low- or No-Sex Relationships (Video)
This is all familiar ground for experienced couples therapists, but Michelle Weiner-Davis puts it all together very nicely in this TED talk. Notice especially the examples of how the conversation can go wrong vs. how it can go right, and the potential reversal of desire and arousal.
A Couples Therapist at the Movies – “Her”
Spoiler alert: this may not be much of a review, and could negatively affect your impression of the movie “Her” if you have not yet seen it. And there are actually some spoilers. This article is probably better read after having seen the movie. or perhaps if you do not plan to see it at […]
Part 2 of Understanding Men
Recently published on Psyched in SF: Understanding Men, Part 2: The influence of male values on our society, and how to create an atmosphere in relationships with male-minded people that encourages empathy and emotional connection.
Meet Psychologist Dr. Solley
Dr. Robert Solley is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in neuropsychology and couples therapy in San Francisco. Earning his PhD from the California School of Professional Psychology in Berkeley, Dr. Solley has been licensed for over 20 years. He has trained and worked in such diverse settings as Children's Hospital in Oakland, California-Pacific Medical Center in San Francisco, and is a Staff Therapist with the Couples Institute in Menlo Park. Dr. Solley has taught masters and doctoral students as an adjunct faculty member at Alliant University, The Wright Institute, and the University of San Francisco. Currently he sees 15-20 couples a week (as well as some individuals) in his private practice in the Noe Valley neighborhood of San Francisco.
